Family’s Involvement – Leading to Divorce
Unfortunately, more and more couples are resorting to divorce because of family’s involvement in their marital affairs. In some cultures, mothers and sisters think, that they have the right to meddle in their brother’s marriage. They think they have the right to offer unwanted opinions and criticize over the littlest things, usually directed at their brother’s wife. But the blame does not solely lie with them; the husband should be able to differentiate between well meant advice and intruding.
But then, on the other hand, there are times where the wife’s family is interfering as well. At the end of the day, a marriage is between a husband and a wife, what happens behind closed doors, should stay behind the closed doors. Some women go running back to their mothers or sisters and complain about the slightest thing that had happened with them at their in-laws; that is just completely wrong. A married couple should never confide to others about their spouse’s shortcomings.
“They (your wives) are your garment and you are a garment for them.”
(Al-Quran Surah Bakarah, Verse No. 187)
Divorce is a serious step to take because once taken it cannot be undone. If you feel your mother-in-law or sister-in-law is overstepping the boundaries speak to them about it. Ask the whole family for a meeting and discuss your reservations and listen to them as well. Instead of letting things simmer and come to a boil where divorce looks like the best option, just talk to it out.
There are some husbands that will take their mothers or sisters side even if they are wrong and would not support their wives at all. Remember, your wife has left her family to come to yours – respect her, by listening to her objections too. She is not just your wife – she is a mother, a daughter and a sister too. Respect each other, talk to each other and most of all don’t let others interfere adversely in your marriage because after all a marriage is between a husband and a wife.
May Allah SWT bless all Muslim brothers and sisters with happiness in their family life!