Al-Quran, Surah Luqman, Verse No. 14 says:
“And We have enjoined upon man (care) for his parents. His mother carried him, (increasing her) in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the (final) destination.”
Do not ever say this to your expecting wives,
“All women around the world are doing it everyday. You are not doing anything special. My sisters/mother used to do all the chores by themselves when expecting. You are just being lazy!”
She is not being lazy, she is just being pregnant. She may look fine. Her reports may come out good. There may not be any “complication” in her pregnancy, but still it is difficult for her. Exhaustion, fatigue, body pains, sleepiness are all common and considered NORMAL in pregnancy. So, even if her pregnancy is normal and healthy, she is still going through a lot of pain and discomfort.
Not just physical discomfort, but a woman is going through psychological pressure as well. Depression, anger and irritability are common side effects. Be patient with her. She will fight with you all the time, but you should try to soothe her. She will be mean, rude and harsh to you. Truth be told, she may even hate you! But you must be sweet, kind, loving and caring towards her. She really needs it! Yes, She needs your kind words, care and affection.
She is always hungry and sleepy. Yes, all the time! And yet, she can neither eat nor sleep properly. So, just imagine how you would behave if you are hungry, sleepy, exhausted and in pain for nine consecutive months.
Don’t complain about meals not being ready on time. Firstly, ask her to take some food. Both your wife and your baby are hungry. Don’t complain about home being dirty. Help her around. Do your own work.
Yes ,Every pregnancy is different
Every pregnancy is different. It may have been easier the first time but the second time she may be going through hell. So, please understand.
Don’t you see how random strangers are being kind to her? How people are giving up their seats for her? How people are giving her the extra piece of cake and chocolate? If random people are being so sweet to her, then why can’t you be? You should be doing it more because she is bearing YOUR child.
She is bearing it with all her strength. She is bearing it with all her energies. You should also bear her patiently. And then you will be blessed with a beautiful child who will fill your life with smiles and laughs. And yeah, your wife will be back to her normal sweet self. So, just be kind for now.
May Allah SWT bless all Muslim brothers and sisters with happiness in their family life!